Spice Up Your Sex Life

Casual Sex Relationship

Many people when at first hear about no commitment casual sex relationship, swingers and the swinging lifestyle often believe that, there has to be something wrong in a couple's spousal relationship if they join in. They are 100% wrong. The swingers lifestyle and recreational sex is only for couples (end selected singles) with strong, committed and secure marital or spousal relationships.

So why committed couples decide to join in? Why do they risk their marital relationship? Do they risk anything anyway? If their relationship strong, if they love each other deeply, they do not risk anything, in fact swinging going to make their relationship even stronger. Why is that? What is so special in the swingers lifestyle? The fact is that there is no special in this lifestyle, just friendship, fun and no commitment recreational sexual relationship. What will be more - friendship or sex - it depends on the people who decided to try to swing. They have their own sexual fantasies and the special is their own way how they make their erotic fantasies reality.

No Commitment Casual Sex Relationship

Above I mentioned: "Fun and no commitment sexual relationship" or recreational casual sex relationship. What is no commitment, recreational casual sex? Sex used to be something that only people who are married, supposed to do in a regular basic and have sex with each other only. Mainly in a privacy of their family bed. So what about prostitution? Yes, prostitution is the oldest business, but prostitution has nothing to do with swinging. There is no relationship between a prostitute and the clients. It is strictly business. However there is something that related to prostitution. In the past people wasn't that much different than people today. We have erotic fantasies and they had erotic fantasies. The differences are the way how those erotic fantasies turned to be realities. In the past mainly men just visited a prostitute to fulfill his erotic fantasies. There wasn't love making - it was sex only. He reserved his love to his wife. Same with swinging. Swingers' casual sex relationship is not love making. It is recreational sex only, maybe with friendship, but still no commitments, just recreational sex. Swingers make love with their spouse only.

So what about women's erotic fantasies in the past?

Did they have one? If they did, what a woman did about it?

Swinging wasn't her option, swinging did not existed at that time. Male prostitution was unknown, so she could not go to visit prostitutes either. She might masturbate or cheat on her huby (both activity concerned as crime in the past) or she could visit her family doctor and the doctor performed "hysteria therapy" on her. Basically the doctor give her a orgasm with erotic massage and he might use on her a medical instrument too. This instrument was the first vibrator, available for medical professionals only.

This has nothing to do with swinging either, but this made us realize a lady in the past wasn't allowed separate sex and love. She could not separate and wasn't allowed to separate love and sex.

The casual sex relationship or recreational sex was un know. She had to deal with her husband with anything that related to sex.

Today's women has as many rights as men has. Today's modern, open minded people can separate love and sex. Sex is becoming something more of a leisure. If you and your spouse want it, you can share your sex life with others. Does this mean that sex has nothing to do with love? No it doesn't. We making love only for the one who we are in love with.

The recreational sex, the no commitment sex and casual sex are those things that make people swing. People separate those sexual actives from the spousal relationship and enjoy it as an entirely separate sexual activity to spice up their marital sex life with.

Why does your marriage will be stronger if you have sex with others in the present of your spouse?

Because many people, even married people need sexual variety to live a fully enjoyable sex lives. We all know that how much marriages ends up in divorce, because the sex life became boring and people start to cheat. Does this boring sex and cheating mean we don't love our spouse or don't want to make love with them any more? No it doesn't. We need something different to spice things up, we need something different to bring the spark back to our own sex life with. Different doesn't stand for better. For example, when a swinger woman looking for a man at the swingers party, she doesn't in a search for find a better man than her spouse. She is looking for someone different, different body, younger or older, different moves, and different sexual activity. This man is a new man in her life, (even if just for one night stand) and probably will be very different then her spouse, therefore it will be very exciting.

Variety and sexual fantasies are the two things that makes no commitment recreational sexual relationships exiting. Erotic sexual fantasies and the variety of sex partners are the next things that brings many people into the lifestyle. The swinging lifestyle is about sharing the sexual fantasies and sexual activities together with your partner. Recreational sex might involve everything that good for you, good for your spouse and good for your new sex partner. There is no written limit what is allowed and what is not allowed. You set your own rules, you set you own limit, and then stuck to it.

The swingers lifestyle can only work for the committed couples that relationships is strong and they know how to communicate with each other. If they decide to spice up their spousal sex life with no commitment recreational sex, they going to have lot of fun together. The main thing is in casual sex relationship, the word together. They do it together.